Relationship Empowerment

Which of you is right? And who is wrong? The correct answer: who cares. You can either be right or you can remain married. The need to be right is a losing relational strategy. There is no room for so-called objective reality in our intimate relationships. Our need to be right eats away at intimacy. To learn more request your first session.
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21st Century Rules of Marriage

As you process the above statement about being right or remaining married, you’re likely thinking that sounds like a bitter pill to swallow. You might even be rejecting the sentiment all together, and that’s perfectly fine. It’s taken even me and my wife some time to accept that their is no room for so-called objective reality in our intimate relationships. At some point in therapy, I’ll teach you and your partner to imagine you’re at the customer service window. Specifically, when your partner comes to you in a state of disrepair and their giving you an ear full of their subjective reality, be generous and seek to validate even a portion of their complaints and see them soften. Easier said than done , of course it is. Yet, over the course of therapy you’ll develop the desire and skill to replicate this fiercely intimate way of life. The two of you will feel joy and empowerment to a degree you’ll never want to go back to your old broken selves. Hardly any relationship problem is an even 50/50 split. Due to that fact, as your therapist I will choose sides when necessary. Surprising? I'll side with the partner whose been seeking greater relational intimacy. The partner whose been pleading for the other to show up. This leverage is what helps you achieve breakthrough results in your love life. Therapist neutrality would only keep your relationship stuck. I give the "hounding" spouse a break by taking on the avoidant, disconnected, emotionally unavailable partner. Having said that, my clients also experience my approach to be gentle and compassionate. As a therapist I see myself in a same-as stance. In other words, I'm one of you. I too am striving to break out of the dysfunctional self-centered shackles and live a more connected and loving relational life.
Dustin Hodgkin, LMFT
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
Services

Your Couple Bubble deserves a breakthrough...

  • Infidelity
  • Couples Counseling
  • Family Conflict
  • Sex Therapy

Approaches

  • Relational Life Therapy
  • Walk-and-Talk Outdoor Therapy
  • Interpersonal Neurobiology
  • Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (P.A.C.T.)
  • Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
  • Esther Perel Approach to Affairs/Infidelity

Insurance Accepted

  • Premera Blue Cross
  • Regence
  • Kaiser Permanente

Fees

  • Intake Interview: $230
  • Individual Therapy: $160
  • Couple Therapy: $180
  • Family Therapy: $180 - $200
Testimonials

“Being connected with Dustin was truly divine intervention. He was lighthearted and funny at appropriate times, made me pause and go deeper into past experiences. He was very gentle always asked my permission before posing a potentially uncomfortable question. ”

Newly Wed Client

“My wife and I have been seeing Dustin for a year now. I can’t stop telling friends and family how much it has helped our relationship. Not only is Dustin personable and fair, he genuinely cares and wants his clients to progress.”

Couple Client

“I'm extremely happy as a client of Dustin’s! I’d tried multiple therapists over the course of a decade. I told myself 'maybe therapy wasn’t for me...I'm a person that wanted results and didn’t want to dwell on the past'. I’ve seen Dustin for 4 years now.”

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Location

Western Washington + Southern Utah

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Olympia, WA 985064033

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